Remembering
Today I remember.
I remember…
…because if I don’t, know one else will.
…because I still miss you, even though I never met you.
…because just the thought of losing you brings tears to my eyes, even three years later.
…because having a healthy, happy two year old doesn’t make it any easier.
…because even though you were nothing to anyone else, you were everything to me.
…because I am one in four people who have lost a pregnancy or child to miscarriage or stillbirth.
…because we never talk about, recognize, or validate these losses and we should.
…because by making women who experience miscarriage and/or stillbirth suffer in silence, we compound their loss.
…because everyone knows someone who has suffered a loss and today–or any day– that someone might be hurting.
…because today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day.
…because we shouldn’t need a special day to acknowledge these very real losses.
…because all I have to remember you by is this necklace I’m wearing.
And it’s not enough.
If you know someone who lost a pregnancy or child to miscarriage or stillbirth, reach out to them today, acknowledge their loss.
I promise you, they will appreciate it.
What a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing and encouraging others to acknowledge our losses. It means so much to know that we are not alone in our remembering. Sending peace, love and light your way and remembering with you. I am so sorry for your loss. xoxo
Will be thinking of you tonight as we join the Wave of Light. Hugs – you are not alone.
Such a beautiful post. Remembering with you today, Kait, and sharing our love and light together.
Such an important post for those of us who have experienced such losses — and those around us why may not understand the depth of the loss.
You touched my heart with this post. Abiding and remembering with you.
What a beautiful post. I’m abiding and remembering with you and all of my friends who have lost babies.
I’ve had a couple of very early miscarriages as a surrogate, but I do not consider those losses my own. I always think of my former intended parents on this day, for the losses they experienced via my body and for the ones they endured which eventually lead them to surrogacy.
Holding you in love and light today, my friend.
How beautiful. Such an important and needed post. Thinking of you, sending you light and peace.
Thank You for putting that all into words for those of us who have experienced such heart break.
Wonderful post that says it all, really. I’m remembering my two losses today too, and sending you hugs.
beautiful. I remember with you.
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Such a beautiful tribute and you are right. The silence of pregnancy loss is so misplaced. Sharing in your remembrance today! Thank you for writing this!
3000 times yes: “I remember…
…because if I don’t, know one else will.”
Abiding with you tonight.
This is a gorgeous post that gets right to the heart of why pregnancy loss is so hard. Thanks for your support on my FB post today too.
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What a beautiful necklace and what a wonderful way to remember. Great post and hugs to you.
I’m very late to this, and was away on this day. What a beautiful post, and beautiful necklace.
What I’ve found, 10 years on, is that we never forget, but that in time we remember with love, not pain.